Paul Comrie-Thomson: Well, in opposition to John Gray: Men Are From Mars - Women Are From Venus we have not just a counterpoint but a counter-blast. The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Speak Different Languages? is written by Deborah Cameron, Professor of Language and Communication at Oxford University. It’s said that women universally instinctively shrink from coarse and gross expressions, but what do we find in Papua New Guinea?
Deborah Cameron: Well, in the village of Gapun it’s women who specialise in coarse and gross expressions. Women are generally thought to be the headstrong ones who can’t control their emotions and men think they’re above language that’s coarse and gross. Women specialise in a genre called kros which is the Tok Pisin word for 'angry', where basically you sit in your house and ventilate any grievance you have against another person by just embarking on a monologue of obscene abuse, so obscene in fact that I can't give you the flavour of it by reading out any of my transcript on the air.
This is something almost exclusively done by women. Occasionally men who've been widowed have a kros, but other men feel the need get their wives to do it for them because it is thought to be a women's speciality. Basically this is a culture, and not the only one either, where women are from Mars and men are from Venus. Men pride themselves on their ability to keep the conversation diplomatically indirect and polite, whereas women just say what's on their minds, often very obscenely.
Source: Counterpoint, ABC Radio National, 17 December 2007

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